Dynamics
- Manipulation Rules indicate how the types manipulate others
| Manipulation | |
|---|---|
| 1 | Correcting Others — insisting others share their standards |
| 2 | Finding out others’ needs and desire — then creating dependencies |
| 3 | Charming Others — and by adopting whatever image works |
| 4 | Being temperamental — and making others walk on eggshells |
| 5 | Staying preoccupied — and by detaching emotionally from others |
| 6 | Complaining — and testing others’ commitment to them |
| 7 | Distracting others — and by insisting others meet their demands |
| 8 | Dominating others — and by demanding that others do as they say |
| 9 | Checking out — and passive-aggressively resisting others |
- Leaden Rules -the way that the types force themselves on others when manipulation fails. Do unto others what you most fear having done unto you.
| Leaden Rule | |
|---|---|
| 1 | Point out the evil, corruption and defectiveness in others |
| 2 | Make others feel unworthy of their love, generosity or attention |
| 3 | Make others feel valueless by treating them arrogantly or with contempt |
| 4 | Treat people disdainfully as if others were nobodies |
| 5 | Make others feel helpless, incompetent and incapable |
| 6 | Undermine the support system of others to isolate them |
| 7 | Cause pain and make others feel deprived in various ways |
| 8 | Make others feel they will be harmed or controlled by their threats |
| 9 | Make others feel they have lost connection by tuning others out. |
- Direction of Disintegration
| Disintegration | New Type | |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Methodical to Irrational, Disenchanted, Hypocritical, and Self-Indulgent. | 4 |
| 2 | Needy to Aggressive, Dominating, Blunt, and Controlling | 8 |
| 3 | Driven to Disengaged, Apathetic, Disillusioned, and Complacent | 9 |
| 4 | Aloof to Over-involved, Dramatic, Hypersensative and Clinging | 2 |
| 5 | Detached to Hyperactive, Aggressively insensitive, Anxious, Scattered | 7 |
| 6 | Dutiful to Competitive, Arrogant, Self-Conscious, and Dishonest | 3 |
| 7 | Scattered to Impatient, Insensitive, Self-restraining, and Critical | 1 |
| 8 | Self-Confident to Secretive, Cynical, Paranoid, and Nihilistic | 5 |
| 9 | Complacent to Anxious, Worried, Rigid and Paranoid | 6 |
- Direction of Integration
| Integration | New Type | |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Angry and Critical to Spontaneous, Joyful, Curious and Open Minded | 7 |
| 2 | Prideful and Self-deceptive to more Self-nurturing, Creative and Emotionally Aware of their Physical and Emotional Needs | 4 |
| 3 | Vain and Deceitful to Cooperative, Selfless, Committed to others, and Courageous enough to ask for help. | 6 |
| 4 | Envious and Emotionally Turbulent to more Objective, Principled, Accepting of themselves, and Discerning | 1 |
| 5 | Avaricious and Detached to more Self-confident, Grounded in the real world, Applied, and Decisive | 8 |
| 6 | Fearful and Pessimistic to more Relaxed, Mindful, Optimistic, and more Open while being more grounded. | 9 |
| 7 | Gluttonous and Scattered to more Focused, Profound, Clear-minded and Mindful | 5 |
| 8 | Lustful and Controlling to more Open-hearted, Caring, Respectful, and Nurturing | 2 |
| 9 | Slothful and Self-neglecting to Self-developing, Confident, Energetic, and Authentic | 3 |
Levels of Development
Healthy
| Level 1 | Level 2 | Level 3 | |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Accepting, Wise | Evaluating, Reasonable | Principled, Responsible |
| 2 | Self-nurturing, Unconditionally Loving | Empathetic, Caring | Principled, Responsible |
| 3 | Inner-Directed, Authentic | Adaptable, Admirable | Goal-Oriented, Self-Improving |
| 4 | Life-embracing, Life enhancing | Introspective, Sensitive | Self-Revealing, Creative |
| 5 | Participating, Visionary | Observant, Perceptive | Focused, Innovative |
| 6 | Self-Reliant, Courageous | Engaging, Reliable | Committed, Cooperative |
| 7 | Joyous, Satisfied | Anticipating, Enthusiastic | Realistic, Productive |
| 8 | Self-Surrendering, Heroic | Self-Reliant, Strong | Self-Confident, Leading |
| 9 | Self-Possessed, Indomitable | Unself-conscious, Peaceful | Unselfish, Comforting |
Average
| Level 4 | Level 5 | Level 6 | |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Obligated, Striving | Self-Controlled, Orderly | Judgmental, Critical |
| 2 | Well-intentioned, People-pleasing | Possessive, Intrusive | Self-important, Overbearing |
| 3 | Success-Oriented, Performing | Image-Conscious, Expedient | Self-Promoting, Grandiose |
| 4 | Romanticizing, Individualistic | Self-Absorbed, Temperameental | Self-Indulgent, Decadent |
| 5 | Conceptualizing, Preparing | Detached, Preoccupied | Extreme, Provocative |
| 6 | Dutiful, Loyal | Ambivalent, Defensive | Authoritarian, Blaming |
| 7 | Acquisitive, Consuming | Distracted, Scattered | Self-Centered, Excessive |
| 8 | Pragmatic, Enterprising | Self-Glorifying, Dominating | Confrontational, Intimidating |
| 9 | Self-Effacing, Agreeable | Disengaged, Complacent | Resigned, Appeasing |
Unhealthy
| Level 7 | Level 8 | Level 9 | |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Self-Righteous, Inflexible | Obsessive, Contradictory | Condemnatory, Punitive |
| 2 | Self-justifying, Manipulative | Entitled, CCoercive | Feeling Victimized, Burdensome |
| 3 | Unprincipled, Deceptive | Duplicitous, Opportunistic | Monomaniacal, Relentless |
| 4 | Hateful, Alienated | Self-Rejecting, Clinically Depressed | Despairing, Life-Denying |
| 5 | Nihilistic, Eccentric | Horrified, Delirious | Seeking Oblivion, Self-Annihilating |
| 6 | Panicky, Unreliable | Paranoid, Lashing Out | Self-Abasing, Self-Destructive |
| 7 | Insatiable, Escaping | Manic (Depressive), Reckless | Overwhelmed, Paralyzed |
| 8 | Ruthless, Dictatorial | Megalomaniac, Terrorizing | Sociopathic, Destructive |
| 9 | Repressed, Neglectful | Dissociating, Disoriented | Self-Abandoning, Disappearing |
Pathologies and Neuroses
- Wake Up Calls - indicate that the type is moving from the healthy range to the more fixated average range.
| Wake Up Call | |
|---|---|
| 1 | Feeling a sense of personal obligation to fix everything themselves |
| 2 | Believing they must go out to others to win them over |
| 3 | Beginning to drive themselves for status and attention |
| 4 | Holding on to and intensifying feelings through the imagination |
| 5 | Withdrawing from reality into concepts and mental worlds |
| 6 | Becoming dependent on something outside the self for guidance |
| 7 | Feeling that something better is available somewhere else |
| 8 | Feeling that they must push and struggle to make things happen |
| 9 | Outwardly accommodating themselves to others |
- Red flags - fears that indicates the type is moving from the average range to the unhealthy range of behaviors
| Pathological Warning Signs | Red Flag | |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | Taking rigidly Inflexible positions Extremely self-righteous and very judgmental Rationalizing and justifying their own actions Intense feelings of disillusion and depression Outbursts of rage, intolerance and condemnation Obsessive thinking and Compulsive behaviors Periods of masochistic self-punishment | Their ideals are wrong and counterproductive |
| 2 | Extreme tendencies toward self-deception Acting with a sense of delusional entitlement / Histrionics Episodes of manipulating and coercing others Episodes of obsessive love out of keeping with age or status Evidence of repressed aggression acted out inappropriately Physical symptoms of emotional problems | They are driving friends and loved ones away |
| 3 | Physical exhaustion and burnout from relentless workaholism Increasingly false self-image, dishonesty and deceptiveness Lack of feelings and inner emptiness Concealing the degree of their emotional distress Jealousy and unrealistic expectations of success Exploitation and Opportunism Severe episodes of rage and hostility | They are failing, their claims are empty and fraudulent |
| 4 | An oppressive sense of alienation from self and others Extreme emotional volatility and touchiness (not a manic reaction) Dependency on one or two others, with unstable relationships Outbursts of rage, hostility and hatred Chronic, long-term depression and hopelessness Episodes of self-sabotage and rejecting positive influences Obsessions with death, morbidity and self-hatred | They are ruining their lives and wasting their opportunities |
| 5 | Increasing tendency to isolate themselves Chronic physical neglect, letting themselves go Chronic and severe insomnia, nightmares, and sleep disorders Increasing eccentricity — loss of interest in social skills Refusing help, or even being hostile to it Distorted perceptions, hallucinations Talk of suicide | They are never going to find a place in the world |
| 6 | Intense anxiety and panic attacks Acute inferiority feelings and chronic depression Constant fear of losing support from others Alternating dependency and impulsive displays of defiance Keeping bad company and attachments to abusive relationships Extreme suspiciousness and paranoia Hysterical lashing-out at perceived enemies | Their own actions have harmed their security |
| 7 | Extreme dissipation and attempts to escape anxiety Serious longstanding and debilitating addictions Impulsiveness, Offensiveness, and Infantile reactions Compulsive activities and highly elated mood Periods of being out of control Mania, Depression, and Wild Mood swings Period of panic and paralyzing terror | Their activities are bringing them pain and unhappiness |
| 8 | Paranoid feelings of being betrayed by their people Increasing social isolation and bitterness Lack of conscience and empathy; Callous hard-heartedness Episodes of rage, violence, and physical destructiveness Plotting vengeance and retaliation against enemies Seeing self as an outlaw; Involvement with criminal behavior Episodes of striking back at society (sociopathy) | Others are turning against them and will retaliate |
| 9 | Denial of serious health, financial, or personal problems Obstinacy and long-standing resistance to getting help General awareness and vitality dampened and repressed A sense of inadequacy and general neglectfulness Dependence on others and allowing themselves to be exploited Chronic depression and emotional flatness (anhedonia) Extreme dissociation (feeling lost, confused, deeply disconnected) | They will be forced by reality to deal with their problems |
The Call To Transformation
| Call | Remember it is in our nature to… | Transformation | Essential Quality | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | To live for a Higher Purpose | Be wise and discerning | To realize that they can suspend our judgment about what they should do. Accept reality as it is, and to accept ourselves as we are. and not what is our ideal. | Perfection - The universe is perfect as it is, as all things unfold as things ought to. All parts of the whole, even the flawed, contribute to create something more than the sum of its parts. This comes with the knowledge of the necessary amount — the perfect amount for everything |
| 2 | To nurture yourself and others | Be good to yourself and have goodwill and compassion to others | To realize that they aren’t going to heal their hearts through self-sacrifice. Love is not a commodity. Real Love is present in ourselves and others | Freedom - Love is omnipresent. We do not need to give or to get love from others. We have love and value. We are love and value, embodied. There is no need to search for more. |
| 3 | To develop yourself and set an example for others | Take pleasure in your existence and to esteem and value others | Let go of the notion that their value is dependent on the positive regard of others. The mask must come off and the inner emptiness must be acknowledged. They become genuine, striving to be no more or less than they really are. | Hope - We are valuable because we exist. We imbue value on the things around us. We cannot be without value, we can only forget that it is there. |
| 4 | To let go of the past and be renewed by your experiences | Be forgiving and use everything in life for your growth and renewal | To realize that there is nothing wrong with them and so no one needs to rescue them. To be themselves requires no effort. They are already a living work of art — cycling between creation and transformation | Origin - We can create their own lives. Our true self is ever changing due to experiences, and is made richer because of them We can grow from experience. When we allow ourselves to be touched by life, we are changed. |
| 5 | To observe yourself and others without judgment or expectations | Be engaged with reality, contemplating the infinite riches of the world | To stop observing and to experience. The answer to a question arises not from a chattering brain but from a clear mind that is attuned to reality There is nothing to fear with reality because they are a part of it. | Clarity - the lack of attachment to any particular point of view. Any position is useful within a limited context. We are all connected, and we can experience this connection. Everything is an infinite bounty. |
| 6 | To have faith in yourself and trust in the goodness of life | Be courageous and capable of dealing with life under all conditions | To realize how much they are already supported, even in the little things. The support they have been seeking has always been available — in their own Being, inside of them manifesting as an inner emptiness that can be filled with potential | Faith - a real and immediate knowing that comes from experience. Belief with experience that is made into guidance. Being supports us because we are part of it; Our existence has Being. It cannot not have Being. |
| 7 | To joyously celebrate existence and share your happiness | Be happy and to add to the richness of experience for everyone | To realize that fulfillment is not the result of “getting” anything: it is a state of being that arises when we allow the richness of the present moment to touch us To see the divine potential in even the material things. | Ecstasy - the natural experience that arises spontaneously when we experience ourselves as Being — when we quiet our minds. Life is the greatest gift (and so is everything within it). There was nothing wrong with it to begin with. |
| 8 | To stand up for yourself and to speak out for what you believe | Be strong and capable of affecting the world in many different positive ways | To understand the roots of their defensiveness. To open the heart once more to see a forgotten innocence that was always there. To surrender themselves to a higher plan — beyond their self-interest. To realize that they were always powerful and they have no need to assert this power. | Innocence - the primal, and instinctive satisfaction of being alive — in simply experiencing existence as it is. The quality of being child-like. Humans function as part of a balanced natural order. True power comes from aligning oneself with the Divine. |
| 9 | To bring peace and healing into your world | Be an inexhaustible font of serenity, acceptance and kindness to the world | To realize that the only true way to achieve unity is to engage themselves in the present moment. They must confront their negative emotions. We cannot transcend the human condition, we can only embrace it — our true nature. | Holy Love - a dynamic quality of Being that breaks all barriers before it. In dissolving these boundaries, we reconnect with others and realize the Essential Love has been with us all along. Everything in the Universe is interconnected. |